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25.10.09

Sex, lust, lies & deceits

You just never know where a person is in his or her life and what they are going through. Never judge another person's scars, because you don't know how they got them...

Ibat iba ang klase ng tao. Each and one of us were made up by our mere choices and decisions in our lives. Same thing, kung ano man ang nais kong mensaheng iparating sa pamamagitan ng aking blog, ay maaaring iba sa pananaw o paniniwala ng sinumang makakabasa nito. Tabi–tabi po…

deceits

Di maitatanggi, madaming mga taong nag-eexist sa cyber world na nagtatago, mapagkunyari, at nasa likod ng mga mapanlinlang na anyo. Isa na ako dun. Nagkukubli sa likod ng isang maskara.
Pero sa isang payak at maliwanag na kadahilanang gusto ko pa ring malayang magsulat nang walang halong pagalilinlangan na mahusgahan at mamisinterpret, pero hindi upang magpanggap. Sa likod ng mga maskarang ito, masasabi kong malaya kong nasasabi at naisusulat ang gusto ko, walang pagkukuwari. Totoo.

Ngunit bakit nga kaya may mga taong kelangan pang gumamit ng ibang katauhan o pagmumukha? Para saan? Di ba, sino bang naloloko nila? Ang mga taong nakapaligid sa kanila o ang mismong sarili nila? Ano naman ang naging masayang parte sa pagkukunwari? Hanggang kelan? Hanggang sa puntong mismong sarili mo ay di mo na kilala ang totoong ikaw?? Nakakatawa. Nakakaawa. Nakakalungkot ang mga taong ganito.

Pero di ko sila masisisi…

“Never judge another person's scars, because you don't know how they got them... “

Lies

Hindi ako perpektong tao at lalong hindi ako santo. In my past, I’ve done bad things, terrible things. Merong ilan na hindi ko naisip noon na maaring makaapekto pala iyon sa aking decision making at reasoning sa pagdating ng panahon. Pero since past na yun, lessons learned na lang.
Oo, lying is one of those bad habits. But, narealize ko na part lang yun ng aking buhay, habang tumatagal nale-lessen ang lies sa buhay ko. Somehow, I learned how to stand with the truth and mustered enough courage to face the consequences behind it.

Why some people are really good at lying? O minsan bulag lang tayo o sarado ang isip para mapick-up kung alin ba ang totoo at hindi sa sinasabi nila? O sadyang magaling lang sila na magsinungaling? Unlike nung ibang tao na hindi maiwasang mangatal ang boses, manginig ang katawan, di mapakali o mamula ang mukha kapag nagsisinungaling sila.. very obvious di ba?
Pero habitual man, self-satisfying, o white lies para sa kahit kanino, di ko naman sila pwedeng basta husgahan…

“Never judge another person's scars, because you don't know how they got them...”


Lust

Isa daw sa seven deadly sins, pagnanasa.

I am speaking about lust, not necessarily pertaining to sexual desire pero pagnanasa sa kahit anong bagay para makuha ito, notwithstanding any hindrance to get it. How to distinguish eagerness to achieve something from lust? That I don’t know. And sometimes, willingly or not, sa sobrang kagustuhan nating makuha o magkaroon ng isang bagay we tend to bend our back and break some rules, may it be social or moral.

Ibat ibang rationale meron ang bawat isang tao kung bakit at pano nya ginagawa ang lahat para makuha ang isang bagay.

If that is to achieve his success in life, maganda yun kasi yung desire to succeed ang tumutulak sa isang tao para makuha ang ninanais nya, against all odds. But to the point of being a user and deceiving anyone or everyone just to gain something or anything that you want? That sucks!
I may be any of this kind, but I know my limitations and capacities. I know how to motivate myself to achieve my goals. I know when to break rules and I open myself for bad consequences. In my past, I may have even crossed some boundary lines and neglected other’s feelings but it’s just me. Kagaya mo. Di perpekto.

But, up to what point healthy ang lust at kelan masasabi na hindi na ito normal? Really, does the end not justifies the means?

“Never judge another person's scars, because you don't know how they got them...”

Sex

Studies proves that sex is healthy to our lives. It releases toxins and relieves tensions each time we do it. On the contrary, lack of sex usually shows irritability and bad mood. (may relevance ba ang pagiging masungit ng matatandang dalaga?? LOL)

Puzzled lang ako. Bakit may ilang taong sexually deprived pa rin although the truth is may mga asawa naman sila? Men are born polygamous. Pero what about yung mga babaeng naghahanap ng sexual life and satisfaction outside their marriage? Should anyone condemn them?

Sa isang pabirong rason ng isang tao na dumadanas ng ganitong sitwasyon; e kasi daw ilokano daw mister nya, pati daw sa sex e tinitipid sya! Pasintabi po sa mga ilokano, pero natawa naman ako sa joke na yun! Pati pala sex pwede ring tipirin??!! LOL

In simple conversation with one of your beautiful and married officemate, how would you react if she would divulge that she is currently enjoying sex with a complete stranger through chatting instead of doing the deed with her husband? Where having sex with her other half only causes her dissatisfaction and most of the times the feeling of rejection? Can you or should you blame her?

To simply open up herself to a complete stranger and discuss about her sex urges up to the point of fantasizing having sex with him, it’s a different course that most of us may sound absurd and taboo but for her it’s just her own way of liberating all her frustrations and humanly needs.
Others may hypocritely despise having this kind of sexual relationship. But can it be one valid reason, if your partner cannot satisfy or fulfill you sexual urges? I think it is a valid ground for annulment di ba?

But, in general view, no one can judge anyone on these cases, even me, dahil di ko naman alam ang totoong nararanasan and anong klaseng dilemma ang pinagdadaanan ng isang tao to do private things like that.

Universal truth, Sex is aligned with our primary needs such as food and shelter on the hierarchy of our basic needs.

However, kung isa ka sa mga above average level na kumikita ng more than enough, kumakain sa mamahaling resto, nabibili ang kahit anong gusto mo anytime, but then nakatali ka sa isang marriage na hindi kayang isatisfy ang sexual needs mo bilang isang tao, matakpan kaya ng material things ang pagiging hollow mo?

Who am I to judge? I have my own flaws and emptiness too..

"Never judge another person's scars, because you don't know how they got them..."



17 comments:

  1. wow!..indi natouch ako :P

    pakibatukan ako if i may judge sometimes :P

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  2. I agree. Kaya nga sa title pa lang ng blog mo at intro, isama mo na ang image ng blog mo,hindi talaga, hindi talaga kita hinusgahan. lol.
    Pero lam mo may point ka. You don't judge people just because iba ang paniniwala nila sayo. They have their own reasons and stories to tell. If they give you the privilege to know, then listen and hope to learn. If they don't, then it's none of your business.
    Db?

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  3. @ IRIZ
    at talagang napansin mo lahat ha? pero di mo pa rin ako hinuhusgahan... salamat salamat!! wehehe!

    yup, exactly! listen and learn from them...

    galeng!

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  4. dito sa mundo ng blogosperyo, hindi tayo maaaring manghusga... maraming manunulat ang gumagawa nito upang ipahayag ang kanilang saloobin o opinyon... hindi palaging pareho ang magiging paningin natin sa isang sitwasyon at merong malalim na dahilan kaya ang isang tao ay iba ang nabubuong opinyon sa isang bagay.

    tama ka sa sinabi mong wag nating husgahan ang sugat ng isang tao dahil hindi natin alam kung san nila nakuha iyon.

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  5. Don't judge the book if you are not the judge.

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  6. @ GILLBOARD:

    tama ka brod.. madalas, ang nababasa natin na isinulat ng iba ay hindi pala ang literal na kahulugan ng nabasa natin...

    mas madalas, kagaya ng pagsusulat ko at kagaya rin ng istilo mo, may mas malalim at natatagong kwento sa bawat pahina na minsan ay kailangang basahing mabuti para maunawaan ang sinasabi ng may gawa o kaya naman ay sadyang itinago...

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  7. naks. hands down! woohoo! kunin kitang tutor ng english language?? :]

    talagang ang pinakamahabang topic e ung last noh? kaya ka siguro inaatake ng tonsilitis kuya. haha. hanung konek ^^

    napaisip ako, how can u distinguish an impression from judgement??

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  8. @ ATE TSENN

    tutor ka jan! puro kalokohan lang matutunan mo sa akin! asa ka pa??

    nyahahaha! walang konek ang last topic sa pag-atake ng tonsil ko.

    tingin ko, you usually judge a person through your first impression about him.. kaya nga nakikilala mo lang ng totoo ang isang tao pag madalas mo na siyang nakasama at masasabi mo nang misjudged lang sya ng iba kasi di nila sya totoong kilala pa. may sense ba?

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  9. may sense kuya.

    sixth sense. wahahaha. happy undas :]

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  10. palagay ko pareho ang takbo ng utak natin, madaling makita sa mga bakas. he he he

    tulad ng kasabiha,"birds with same feather flock together".

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  11. @ ALKAPON:

    wahahaha!! oo nga!!

    "BIRDS OF THE SAME FEATHER, ARE FLOCK OF BIRDS"

    wehehe!

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  12. ako santo ako.

    oh, sino umangal? hindi ka judge. nurse ka!

    tama ka tol, tama ka. keep it up.

    padaan anoh? dagdag na rin kita balagrul kuh hehe.

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  13. @alkapon

    birds of the same feather have the same feather pare. hahaha.

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  14. galeng... dat is true don't judge da book unless you have read it's content! dabah!

    you will only know the story kung binasa mo talaga...iba kasi hinuhusgahan nila agad dahil sa cover nito!

    about dun sa SEX...ano ba yun male or female? ehehe!

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  15. Depende talaga sa tao yan. Some can survive a sexless marriage and make up for it in other ways. Some go crazy and look for it elsewhere. It's sad when you think of it. It's a need, yes, pero mas marami pang mas importanteng bagay sa mundo.

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huwag ka nang mahiya, isigaw mo yan!

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