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12.9.09

the one that got away

in your life, you'll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. there's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're with... and the one that got away.

who is the one that got away? i guess it's that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong.

there was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, i suppose.

i believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. i can actually agree that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. it has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

how often have you gone through it without even realizing it? when you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're with, it just doesn't work. small problems become big; in consequentials become deal breakers simply because you're not ready and it shows. it's not that you and the person you're with are no good; it's just that it's not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

then one day you're ready. you really are. and when this happens, you'll be ready to settle down with someone. he or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it'll work because you're ready. it'll work because it's the right time and you'll make it work. and it'll make sense, it really will.

so that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. and mind you, there's no telling when this day will come. hopefully you're still single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn't matter. all you know is that you've changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about. you'll think about them because you'll wonder, "what if they were today?" you'll wonder, "what if we were together now, with me as i am and not as i was?" that's what the one that got away is. the biggest "what if?" you'll have in your life.

if you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. but hopefully you're mature enough to realize that you're already with the one you're with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. sure, you'll think about him/her every so often, but it's alright. it's never nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens.

maybe the one that got away is the one who's already married. in which case it's the same thing. you just have to accept and know that you're memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you're old and gray and reminiscing.

but if neither of that is the case, then it's different. what do you do if it's not yet too late? simple... find him, find her. because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you'll always wonder, what if you got that one?

ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn't matter if you've dropped in from out of nowhere. you'd be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."

you might drop in from out of nowhere and it won't make a difference. if the timing is finally right, it'll all just fall into place somehow and you know, i'm thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, "hey you, you're the one that almost got away."

14 comments:

  1. We had the right love
    At the wrong time
    Guess I always knew inside
    I wouldn't have you for a long time

    Those dreams of yours
    Are shining on distant shores
    And if they're calling you away
    I have no right to make you stay
    But

    Somewhere down the road
    Our roads are gonna cross again
    It doesn't really matter when
    But somewhere down the road
    I know that heart of yours
    will come to see
    That you belong with me

    Sometimes goodbyes are not forever
    It doesn't matter if you're gone
    I still believe in us together
    I understand more than you think I can
    You have to go out on your own
    So you can find your way back home
    And

    Somewhere down the road
    Our roads are gonna cross again
    It doesn't really matter when
    But somewhere down the road
    I know that heart of yours
    will come to see
    That you belong with me
    Letting go is just another way to say
    I'll always love you so

    We had the right love
    At the wrong time
    Maybe we've only just begun
    Maybe the best is yet to come
    'Cause

    Somewhere down the road
    Our roads are gonna cross again
    It doesn't really matter when
    But somewhere down the road
    I know that heart of yours
    will come to see
    That you belong
    With me

    wala lang...napakanta lang o diba complete yan ha di lang intro hehehe..

    takasusi riyadh po ako indi,kaliwali ana maibga cbox ashan fi cbox hena. ok na ba tagpi-tagpi kong arabi? :P

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  2. @ MJ,

    wehe! natawa naman talaga ako sa comment mo!

    gawin bang songhits ang comment??! LOL

    teka muna, iresearch ko muna at ipatranslate ko sa saudi na GRO namin yan sinabi mo.. mushkila, mafi malom arabi... wehehe!

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  3. @ MJ,

    ahhh... aba! at balak mo lang talagang "pagparausan" ang cbox ko ha?? wehe!

    di pwedeng laging nanggagamit lang, kelangan nagpapagamit din paminsan minsan! (ano daw?!)

    its ampeyr! LOLZ

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  4. like this post.. im wondering now who's the one who got away in my life.. :)

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  5. nyahaha..pinagpapahinga ko naman cbox mo minsan ah?.. dito naman ako ngayon sa comment o dba?..

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  6. @ MJ

    WAHAHAHA!! utang na loob ko pa yata?? wehehe!

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  7. bah,parang ang dalas mo ata mag senti ngayon ah...

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  8. A very beautiful post, thanks so much for sharing.

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  9. parang kailan lang naalala ko yung taong minsan naging buhay ko,naks! naalala ko lang naman hanggang dun lang,hehe

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  10. senti senti!!

    ang ganda..binasa ko at inintindi isa isa..english kasi eh..nahirapan ako pero naintindihan ko! yun lang bow!

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  11. @ SEAQUEST

    ganun talaga... dala ng talanding panahon..

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  12. @ ANONYMOUS353

    thanks for reading and for the visit!

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